History of a father and a track record of caring. Mix that with some mirth, poetry, and overall cynicism - you have me.
If you have breakfast.
Published on October 2, 2003 By TidalPoet In Personal Relationships
So there we were, in the car, on the way home from school. The Bean happily singing to "Die Another Day" by Madonna and I was in the front navigating through traffic. She'd had fun at picture day and was happy in her frumpy dress.

"Daddy, I'm hungry."

Of course, the child had had three meals today. I explained how she couldn't be hungry again, already, she'd just ate at her Aunts, had lunch at school and breakfast at Daddy's. In typical five year old fashion, the subject changed. But the voice was very quiet.

"Can I have a box of cereal for Mommies?"

She knew we had an extra box of cereal because she'd conned my girlfriend into buying her Fruitloops (not allowed and she knows it). But, as I slowly drug it out of her, it seems her mother doesn't feed her breakfast. And of course, every morning, she drops her off for school at my sisters without mentioning this fact. When food is offered the usual response is, "Oh she had plenty." or some such variation of a lie.

Ah well, we got through that. The sister knows to feed her breakfast, dry her hair, put underwear and shoes on her if she shows up lacking any. Should she have to? I was under the impression that was a parents job. I'd like to make sure everyone understands I'm not trying to be overly bitter here, but if that were me and brought up to anyone, the answer would have been "Oh, typical deadbeat Dad not doing his job." If it's a Mom? "She must be busy trying to manage her life." Or some other sad sad excuse.

Back to the Bean.

We had Cider, but didn't get back early enough for Go Fish. Maybe tonight. This morning she made it known that little girls need more sleep than what she'd gotten and that she was going to sleep in the car so she could look pretty for school. I told her she looked pretty even without that extra sleep, but her snores made it clear she wasn't listening.

Another day of underwear and shoes for the Bean.


Comments
on Oct 02, 2003
I just wanted to let you know that I look forward to reading your posts. "Enjoy" would be the wrong word, but I feel as though I am getting to know The Bean and that she is thoroughly likeable.

My daughter is 9 and my son is 16. It is an amazing thing. You do the best to take care of your kids, hug 'em and love 'em and somehow they turn into people.
on Oct 02, 2003
Thank you very much for the comment. I was going to put something in my next post letting people know that it's fine to comment or whatnot, didn't want to be posting to the universe and be ignored. I really do believe this is a great way to communicate with your netizen community and to record a few things as you do so.

-- Thanks again.